Would you be able to tell if your oh was forcing himself to have sex ?

[Pleurepaslabouchepleine]

Hi,

Dh and I have had some rocky months but now things are better. We have been seeing a councillor for few weeks which helps, we changed our family routine so we can have couple time pretty much every evenings. Even our sex life is better...we do it 2 to 3 times a week when before it was 1 or 2 times a month. I was on the pill so my sex drive was really low and Dh's sex drive was never that high anyway.

I initiate sex all the time now, I have a feeling that if I was not initiating it, Dh wouldn't be bothered. Last night, we did it but I could feel he was not into it, he denied it but I just could tell even if he came in the end. I need to stop initiating it, isn't it ? I don't know how to help this situation !

There's nothing wrong with initiating. If he says no, then stop. But he's going along with it. It's for him to speak up and say no if he doesn't want sex. If he engages, he wants sex.

In the early years we'd never have had sex at all if DH hadn't taken the lead.

I think the biggest issue here is that you don't trust him to tell you the truth.

If he was aroused and he climaxed, what was he doing/saying to make you think he wasn't in to it?

Do you think you could be on the lookout for signs that are not necessarily there?

Maybe I'm just feeling a bit insecure, things have been so good lately so maybe it's hard to believe things are back on track !