Narcissistic mother has terminal cancer

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and actually my first feeling when I heard (apart from not being sure I believed it) was relief. Am I a horrible person?

No you're not. Sorry I don't really have much advice for you, but

Sound a fairly human response to me.

No. When my narc father died - though I didn't know the term at the time - I just felt overwhelming relief that he would no longer be able to turn up and try to ruin my life.

It's really sad when a family relationship has come to such a pass, and it's bloody tough to have that sort of a parent.

It's normal. She gave you nothing by the sound of it - just took.

Like lumela I'd not heard of the term either.
3 years ago my mother called to say she was terminally ill and had 12 months to live. I really didn't know what to say to her. I couldn't even tell her I loved her. I made the decision not to travel to see her (she lives 400 miles away) and it was the best decision of my life. The relief I had knowing she was dead was unbelievable. It was only then I realised how shit she had made me feel growing up.

I totally sympathise with you op. Pm me if you want to chat.

It's good to see you are not alone. There are a lot more cases out just like you and what you are feeling is normal.

Have you got some support? This will be difficult time for you.

If you don't have any please keep posting - you will get great support here but that is much better combined with someone real on the ground.

Thanks all. Felt really weird as only a few months ago I realised what she is. My dd says she feels nothing too which is good for her - we lost my MIL earlier this year who she was really close too. Need to look after myself