DP and I have lived together for 2 years, been together 2.5. Generally very happy.
One day last month I was off work sick. DP left laptop on by the bed from the night before, and as I was lying in bed I picked it up to use the internet. His emails were open, the first one with my name clearly in the content in the first line, with his mother. I opened it. He had told her he had been offered work in Ireland, (we live in Scotland), and said he hadn't told me yet because he was unsure about what he wanted to do, and didn't want to upset me unnecessarily. Mothers response? That I was too over the top with him, that it wasn't healthy for him to be with someone like me and that she 'would of course keep it a secret.' She said I didn't think about our life as a couple.
I was shocked because although MIL can be difficult, she's never outright said something so nasty, to my knowledge. I raised this with DP and he said that he hadn't wanted to upset me and said he was sorry he hadn't addressed the nasty comments in the email with his mother but he didn't want to upset her. I explained it hurt me more to be lied to. (Mil is single and does not speak to ex husband).
Since then, we have seen MiL a few times and she has first of all said to DP that he should not be saving to buy a house with me, and should instead buy alone. 2 weeks later she said he should buy somewhere with her.
By way of background - DP has been in tears about his mother many times.. Ranging from sending her money when he sees his dad because he feels guilty and crying because she has called up and had a fall out with a friend. He feels he can't stand up to her, and I feel like MIL has become really nasty towards me recently for no real reason.... I have always been genuinely nice to her.
Im exhausted with the drama and DP'a lies combined. Would you call it a day?