Online dating - met a guy. He's married. Please help me contain my rage.

[JanuaryKat]

That says most of it really. Apologies in advance for typos.
The wife, understandably is gunning for me.
I didn't know he was married until his wife messaged me.
His first response was to message me & give me a diff mob no to contact him on. He says it's a 'cycle' she goes through.
I don't want to drip feed but need to go & calm down

OP, you come across as pretty tough and resilient, I hope you are.

Sorry you are copping the flak and good on you for behaving with dignity, I'd be losing it around now... Good luck.

Is he still on the dating site/do you still have the messages he sent you through it? Screenshot them to her. Create a new FB account if you have to.

No, he's not still on the dating site. I viewed his friend, he appeared briefly - contacted me, told me to contact him via fb & then deleted his dating account

Sorry if that ^ wasnt clear. Trying to explain how we first came into contact.

did you actually meet up with him? or was it all online

shame he has deleted his profile you could have screenshotted it and sent it to her

rest assured this wont be the only site he is on so you can either a,look for him screenshot it and send it to her or b,let it go

i vote b BUT i would contact her once to tell her to direct her venom towards her husband not the single woman HE contacted