I'm in an abusive relationship, 10 years with kids involved. He used to hit me but doesn't anymore, but now it's just insults and completely controlling me. I haven't told anyone in rl as I'm not allowed friends, I'm not close to my family (except my dad who will always be there for me) I want to leave but I'm so scared, I don't think I could cope on my own and I'd have to pull the kids out of school. I've convinced myself I'll have to stay til the kids are older.