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Does my partner hate me?

9 replies

charlb616 · 04/07/2015 08:21

Hi ive been with my partner 7 years and we have a 2 year old little girl. I love him very much but i feel i cant take it anymore. He is so nasty about anything! For example ill ask if he can help with something and all i get is being sworn at, nasty comments and calling me lazy. He works full time and i work 3 days a week, when it comes to the weekends he says its all about him as he had worked more (which i understand) but last weekend i felt very unwell and wanted to stay in bed for an hour or so but he went mental calling me selfish and im lieing about feeling unwell. Its just things like that really, he says im useless all the time, spotty, ugly and no one would want me. Sometimes he will apologise but 5 minutes later he has been nasty again. I feel like im walking on eggshells all the time, if i try talk to him he ignores me basically im not sure what to do?

OP posts:
LadyBlaBlah · 04/07/2015 08:25

Who cares what he thinks of you.....don't you HATE him?

He sounds repulsive

RagingJellyBean · 04/07/2015 08:26

He sounds rude, obnoxious, abusive and evil.

How can you still love a man who treats you like that? I don't understand it.

CantAffordtoLive · 04/07/2015 08:26

Well he doesn't love or cherish or appreciate you.

What to do? That's easy. Get rid. You deserve better.

butterflygirl15 · 04/07/2015 08:28

He is an abuser - you need to leave.

ohlamour · 04/07/2015 08:30

Hi OP, i agree he sounds awful. You & your dd deserve better. It will be hard to leave but if you don't you will end up losing yourself. I just left a P who, though not as bad as your P, made me feel awful & i was walking on eggshells around him. It's no way to live & it definitely does NOT get better.

FolkGirl · 04/07/2015 08:32

You don't love him. He's knocked your confidence so that you fear being alone. All emotions have the same physiological effects. How we interpret them depends on the context. You are choosing to interpret yours as love. But they are not.

What exactly do you love about him?

Janette123 · 04/07/2015 08:35

charlb616,
Your partner is a nasty abusive bully and you deserve better than this.
Just what are you getting out of this relationship except heartache?

You need to make plans to leave this man before you have no self-esteem left.
Please do not let him destroy you psychologically. Flowers

HootyMcTooty · 04/07/2015 15:07

So because he works longer hours he is entitled to down time, but you're not? everyone needs time to themselves, especially if they're ill.

What do you want to happen?

KetchupIsNearlyAVegetable · 04/07/2015 20:22

i feel i cant take it anymore

So don't take it anymore. Get rid.

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