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Would you make anything of this text

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quirkycutekitch · 01/07/2015 07:04

Been dating a guy for a few months had the exclusive chat about a month ago.

Last night we were texting and he said he hasn't told any of his friends anything about us & asked me what I have told my friends - so I replied that women talk & they're happy I'm having fun.

So he text back - I'm glad your 'having fun'!

Would you think that meant anything or would you read is it the same as if the '' wasn't there?

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SavoyCabbage · 01/07/2015 07:10

I think your text to him makes it sound like you aren't serious about him.

BitOutOfPractice · 01/07/2015 07:13

Yes. Your text sounds like you think of him just as a bit of fun, not a long term prospect

Redglitter · 01/07/2015 07:16

I'd be pd off if someone I was seeing basically referred to me as a bit of fun. I can see why he replied the way he did

magoria · 01/07/2015 07:22

A couple of months and 1 month exclusive of course you should be "having fun".

Turn it on its head his mates don't k OW anything about you.

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quirkycutekitch · 01/07/2015 07:24

I didn't call him a bit of fun though - I said my friends are happy for me because I'm having fun.

Isn't that what your supposed to be doing a month in?

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DoreenLethal · 01/07/2015 07:31

I'd reply 'why, aren't you?'

It should be fun a couple of months in!

Sickoffrozen · 01/07/2015 07:31

Personally I wouldn't read anything into it.

DrMorbius · 01/07/2015 07:32

Here is one of my golden rules: - "Make absolutely nothing of any text message".
I predict at some point, a war will be started because of a misunderstood text message.
If you don't understand the nuance of the text, phone him up and talk.....
I guess I am just old Smile

Kvetch15 · 01/07/2015 07:35

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Trills · 01/07/2015 07:51

I would prefer to date someone who know the difference between "your" and "you're".

HTH

Joysmum · 01/07/2015 07:52

I think having fun is a positive thing and I'd not read anything into it.

After all, he's not seen this as serious enough to even tell his mates about!

Trills · 01/07/2015 07:59

If we are properly going to overinterpret this.

Option A

The sender of the text thinks that you are doing more than just "having fun".

They think that you are gearing up to plan the rest of your lives.

They think you may be on the way to "falling in love".

They believe that you have told your friends that you are "just having fun".

(not the "just")

They are a bit put out that they are not more significant to you.

Option B

The sender of the text is glad you are having fun.

A particular kind of fun.

Nudge nudge wink wink.

Do you want to have some fun tonight?

They are hoping you'll reply flirtatiously and suggest the next time you can get together to have some fun.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 01/07/2015 11:09

That's helpful, trills... I'm sure nobody else even spotted that. Hmm

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OP, are you trying to do the 'self preservation' thing perhaps? I agree with sickoffrozen and DrMorbius, don't read into text messages because they're no kind of substitute for a proper conversation.

I like the response 'Of course it's fun, you're fun to be with' or similar. Does it matter to you that he hasn't told his friends about you? Are you feeling that you're not yet 'incorporated' into his life because he hasn't told them? Ask him why - but not by text!

SylvaniansAtEase · 01/07/2015 11:18

The '' is possibly a sign of a Steaming Bellend, but who knows a month in? Shrug it off with the perfect reply suggested above - 'Why, aren't you?' and if any further comment is made, smile and say that you could choose to be snippy about the fact he hasn't told his mates about you yet, but you aren't going to. Because at this stage, you're having fun :)

Jan45 · 01/07/2015 11:52

I would read absolutely nothing into it, text messages are a nightmare for wrong interpretation anyway.

honeyroar · 01/07/2015 13:49

All a bit strange! Of course it should be fun in the early days. To me saying he's someone you have fun with is a step up from not even being important enough to even mention to your friends, so I can't see why he's upset. If he is upset. You'd be best just having an actual conversation about it.

NaiceNickname · 01/07/2015 14:09

So you had the exclusive chat a month ago, yet he hasn't even mentioned you to his friends?

He has no moral high ground here whatsoever. I'd be telling him to get over himself.

glitteryflange · 01/07/2015 15:12

When you see him next talk to him about it.

JAPAB · 01/07/2015 16:14

quirkycutekitch, on first inspection I would read the quotes and exclamation mark as indicating that the sender considers me to have said the wrong thing.

My interpretation may of course be completely incorrect but you asked us how we would interpret it.

JohnFarleysRuskin · 01/07/2015 16:23

I would think he's glad I'm 'having fun.' And then I would think no more of it.

Joysmum · 01/07/2015 16:46

Exactly John and if you aren't sure then ask him what your relationship means to him so you know where you stand.

But weird having and exclusive relationship with somebody nobody else knows anything about so he might well be glad you just see it as fun.

Janette123 · 01/07/2015 16:57

quirkycutekitch,
This is why I don't like texting because the messages can be so ambigious.

However, I am more concerned that he hasn't told anyone about you. Are you sure he is single/available? Hmm

Spell99 · 01/07/2015 17:10

I think you can over analyse what we say or type far too much. Half the time we haven't a clue what we are on about and can barely remember what it was we were saying when you got upset. In any case It sounds flirty to me.

There is really only one person who can tell you what he meant though.

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quirkycutekitch · 01/07/2015 22:22

When I say he hasn't told his friends anything - I mean they know he's seeing someone but he's given no details about us, I only mentioned that to give some context to why he asked me if I'd said anything to my friends. I have no problem with it.

I did text back & say aren't you having fun? - he said he enjoys time with me & wants to see where it goes.

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quirkycutekitch · 01/07/2015 22:23

Oh & the 'your' was my mistake Blush

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