NC for this obviously
Married 30 years 2dc at uni. First 15 years ok me being doting mum and high earner. Him too but away and a bit distant never told me till last minute he was going away and blamed me and left me to struggle with babies. if I challenged him he had some kind of meltdown so I didn't bother and we grew apart. So I had an affair which was wrong. Asked him to leave and he got a flat and had a few gf of course.
Affair fizzled out and he begged to come back. So I said yes but he didn't for two years which was odd but life went on. We saw each other at weekends very busy blah blah. Then I forced the issue and he did. He behaved quite strange but nothing I could put my finger on. Said he didn't like the food I made and disappeared etc always working late etc. Eventually I became stressed and depressed. He said we had no sex which was true.
Forward six years and I find he visits brothels going back 10 years to my affair. yeah right. Blames me. This happened 4 years ago and he constantly shuts me down and Im now on Ads. He wont leave and if I talk to him he rages. Has made me ill. Feck what an idiot to only see one side of a person.