What would you think

[Jolapa123]

Back story, found out my husband was having an affair with a work colleague in february, have the evidence, chats, emails, photos even video clips.... nasty, despite me willing to try again he refuses so i have filed for divorce naming her as co-respondent. she text me last week to ask if we are now even and i am so fucking angry .... Even !!!, she has taken my life and destroyed it, my son is in bits and she asked if we are even , what do you think ??? i need to understand why 3 months after finding out I am so angry i want to destroy her.

Well you know if it wasn't that silly slag then it would have been another one.

She's obviously without any sort of moral compass whatsoever.

I would respond and say, "Yes I would say we are indeed even now that the world knows what a easy knocker dropping slapper you are. Hope it was all worth it. All the very best. mwah."

knicker dropping

The bloody nerve of the woman! Seriously!

Are they still together?

I didn't knwi you could name the OW as co-respondent in divorce proceedings. ATTAGIRL!!! she's clearly fuming. Don't bother replying and I guess she could disclose your text in evidence at trial that you are vexatious so from a legal perspective, definitely don't reply.

You are angry with a woman because your husband was unfaithful to you? That's unreasonable.

You ask "what would you think," and in truth if I was in your exact postion, I would probably feel all the rage and hurt that you are feeling.

However, with the benefit of objective detachment since I am not you, I can say that there is nothing gained from responding to her, or giving her words any of your headspace or energy.

What can you do to distract yourself? I think physical activity to work out the anger could be good right now. Is there anything that needs to be dug, beaten, broken, or shredded in your garden or house?

It's not unreasonable at all to also be angry with the woman who thought it was okay to fuck a married man.

It is absolutely unreasonable. And your comments are offensive. The man was married to the wronged woman, it was his responsibility to be faithful.

I'd just send her this : [hmm}

Seriously, don't reply. She's not worth losing your dignity.

OK, this;

I would text back 'Who is this?'.

On these threads you always get people coming along telling you yabu for being angry at the ow.

Why won't some people just accept that being angry at the other woman in no ways makes you less angry at your partner. You can be angry at your partner and hold him/her 100% responsible for their behavior and choices and still be angry at the other person involved in your hurt seperately.

I wouldn't give the bitch the steam off your piss op.
Don't hold grudges.
Just remember facts.

I'm glad she's upset enough by it to contact you... Must have really upset her ??

Onwards and upwards op.

DO NOT RESPOND.

Don't reply at all - maintain your dignity.

I didn't name OW on the divorce papers, my solicitor advised me against it but I wish I had. It would have ultimately helped me in the long legal process.

And other people have a moral responsibility too. Married or not.

Don't reply!

NEVER respond to a text in anger.

If she continues to text you, respond : Do not ever text me again, if you do I am contacting the police for harassment.

Bjrce is spot on

Yeah, she's quite the Mary poppins isn't she?

Of course you're upset op. Three months isn't long at all. And how date she text you? Don't text back. She's not worth it.
Keep on keeping on.

I wouldn't give the bitch the steam off your piss

God I'm writing that one down for future use.

Don't reply though. I'd guess she's probably DYING to receive some angry text from you that she can show to all her mates and say "No wonder he left her, what a bitch."