When you just want a bit of company?

[fiveacres]

I think I want the impossible, but I'm just throwing this out here to see if anyone can give me the perfect solution.

I don't want a relationship, but I am bored and lonely and fed up at the moment with a school age child, a one year old DD and DD2 due in a few weeks.

I just want someone to chat to and enjoy the evenings with.

Sigh. Not going to happen, is it?

[something2say]

You sound quite foolish to me actually, pregnant and already thinking about the next man, ditching a marriage in what may have been a whim and then thinking to get it back on? I think some growing up is the answer. Maybe use your evenings to do so.

[fiveacres]

something - i wasn't 'thinking about the next man'; I've slept with one man in my life and I married him. I wouldn't want to be with anyone but him - I'm not intending to put the kids through numerous stepfathers and dad figures but accepting that means that yes I will be alone for the foreseeable. Unless we can make our marriage work. Maybe it's salveable

[MrsTedCrilly]

I feel for you, just to have someone to chat about the kids with, share stories about your day etc. DP goes away for 3 days a week and I can't wait to talk to an adult again. I would get networking online just to chat, there are lots of sites for just friends rather than dating.. Only take DH back for the right reasons, not because you're lonely. Only if you truly believe you have something worth saving.

[FolkGirl]

Why did you end it? What happened?

[Nevergoingtolearn]

She never said she wanted another man, she misses the company ( doesn't mean she wants a new relationship with another man, though it can be tempting to jump into one to fill that gap ).

Op, please think long and hard about what you want to do, your feelings will be all over the place at the moment, splitting with someone does that and on top of being pregnant it's going to be even worse. Write a list of reasons to stay together and reasons to stay apart, talk it through with a friend or relative ( sometimes they can be very honest and tell you how they see your relationship, my family have been great at reminding me how me and dh did not belong together ). If you decide to stay together then maybe look into getting some counselling.

[Dosydoly]

Something did you actuslly read the ops posts?! She's not looking for another man and if anyone looks foolish it's you.