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patch123 · 01/06/2015 15:58

My EH is still emotinally abusing me and controlling me and wondered if there is anyone who's been through the same. We didn't go offically through the csa but he has paid me 20% for 2 children. However re ently, for some reason he has gone from working 5 days a week on a good salary to 2 days a week as it has "better prospects". He is a contractor and self employed so I can't even prove that this is true but part of me thinks he's manipulating things so he can pay me less as he HATES paying anything to me for the boys. Out of the blue he reduced my money by £350 per month which means, as I rely on it I can't pay my bills. He also wants to sign a clean break agreement but I think I may try for spousal maintenance. Anyone been through this? He constantly rings and depending on his mood will say "I'm with holding your money this month if you don't swap days with me, sign the clean break form and various other unreasonable things". Total control freak but he knows this is the thing he can hurt me with still.

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goddessofsmallthings · 01/06/2015 22:51

Have you petitioned for divorce? How old are your dc?

pastmyduedate0208 · 01/06/2015 23:28

Solicitor. Now.

Jackw · 01/06/2015 23:35

Yup, legal advice needed immediately. Citizens advice bureau plus official CSA if you can't afford a solicitor though I think it's worth going into debt for a solicitor as he's clearly trying to screw you over and you need some proper legal support.

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