So I'm a first time mummy, lo is 4 months old now. Had a but if a rough time when she was born and had to stay in hospital for a few days. My partner was brilliant through the birth and afterwards when we got home until he went back to work. Now he works 4 days a week and comes home, says hi, looks at the fish tank and then goes online with his son from a previous relationship on the Xbox for a couple of hours - me and my lo go and sit in our bedroom. He does a bit with our lg, takes her swimming, will play with her here and there but I don't feel it's enough. Anyway I'm snapping a lot at him and tbh don't feel like I have any feelings for him - I love my lg so much and she is the most important thing. I keep thinking I must try to make an effort and have just suggested my sister having our lg for a couple if hours so we can go for a meal - a big thing as I've not left her yet. Anyway he said no because he doesn't want to leave our lg but I suspect it's just that he doesn't want to spend time with me. Is all this normal after birth or should things be settling by now! Please be kind!!