Please someone give me strength

[1Cheesedoff]

I have found a house to rent and will move in three weeks (which I know is what I must do) but easier said than done to leave everything you have known in 20 years. My heart is breaking cant eat or sleep must work and keep my sanity to be able to pay rent and bills and look after children. How did you feel when you first left. I feel I am not coping at all.

No advice, but sending you un-Mumsnetty hugs.

I'm sending you some good vibes, and inner strength.

No advice here either, but rest when you can, take care, and keep going. Best of British.

One day at a time. You'll get through it.

Pretty much the same as you. It was hard, I cried a lot, but knowing it was the right thing to do is what kept me going. You have to keep going for the kids, so draw your strength from them, let your friends and family support you emotionally, don't bottle it up inside. 4 years down the line and I'm happier than ever, I never looked back and neither must you. I know it feels like shit at the moment but I promise you it will get better

Thank you so much for your kind words. I really didn't think it would be so hard. I think when this sick feeling goes away I will gather strength from somewhere. Good luck to you all. x x

People move house all the time. You're thinking of it as leaving "everything" which sounds so... apocalyptic. If you just think of it as moving house it's no big deal. Are you moving very far? New schools etc? Closer to or further from family? New job or same old thing? You mention looking after the children so at least those will be the same!

Hi Cheesedoff, fantastic progress on the house rent. See a few weeks ago you didn't think you could do that on your own - and now you have!
That awful feeling though, that self-doubt about all the things that have led you to this point...
I am sure it will be better.
Have you told the children yet, if not when and how do you plan to?
Will you be taking much with you to the new place - furniture etc?
Keep going with the plans. Best wishes!

Cheesedoff, I have been there. It will be ok. In fact, it will be better than you can have imagined. Just keep moving as best you can, and the tears will start to dry up fairly quickly. Sending you my best "woo" vibes.

damnstatistics thanx. I go in 3 weeks. not taking furniture just going to put it all together as i go along. I will sort everything later just want to get out its a much smaller place so shouldn't be a problem. Yes children coming and are quite excited now.. not sure whether to just go then text him to say not coming back.,, or to tell him just before i leave. what did you do? Any suggestions bearing in mind he has ignored me for all these months and made my life hell. x

Get out first. Safer by far. You have more control that way.

You are DEFINITELY best advised to make the move and then text at your leisure - there's no need to rush to let him know; do it when you can get round to it which most probably won't be until you've unpacked and are settled.

Good luck and don't foget to come back so we can raise a glass to your bright new future