Taken to the net for advice...confused

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So, I met someone and we started a friendship, a really good friendship and it seems to be constantly developing. one problem she has a boyfriend...well she started seeing someone shortly after we met but he seems to be slipping more and more into the background.
She would see him on a weekend and we would just have a weekly get together but over the past 3/4 weeks i've started staying at hers instead of walking 5 mins home. We were together the whole bank holiday and started making plans for weekends and nights away.
I found out that her friends think I'm the boyfriend coz she feels comfortable introducing me to them, i've even met all her work collegues.
Am I over thinking this because its seems i'm heading into the boyfriend role here.

Probably time to tell her how you feel op

Where's the boyfriend while this is going on?

I dont know, i would have expected them to be together thismweekend being a bank holiday but me and her ended up at show on saturday then going to hers and again yesterday/last night...he was doing DIY?? and it was the same last weekend aswell

You're either
a) soon to be new boyfriend
b) safe friend, no threat to relationship.

Which do you think you might be?

yeah but do you want to be with someone who would just gradually and quietly phase out their current partner and phase in a new one? Won't you, once the initial honeymoon phase wears off, be concerned that actually you'll be phased out too? It's not very honest what she's doing and could be a sign that she isn't particularly emotionally mature/stable if she is using one man to get rid of another. I think really the best thing for you to do would be to back off. If you really like her then you surely want to know that she actually wants to be with you as a person not just as a tool to crowbar her out of a relationship she doesn't want anymore.

she's basically trying you on for size without making a decision and in the process disrespecting you both IMO

Is the boyfriend real? Her friends think it's you.

Old saying,"Softly, softly, catchy monkey", I think you're the monkey.

Whether the boyfriend is real or not it's not the kind of thing you (or anyone) should settle for - being treated in this way. Are you happy with being strung along and treated as a back up boyfriend?