Do you ever wonder if the OWs who post on here might be seeing your husband?

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An OW posts and I immediately match details. If they say something which means their mm could not be my husband then I am relieved. Today I have read a post where there weren't many details about the married man and I found myself going a bit cold .

All this talk of how many (more than would admit it) married people cheat doesn't help!

Maybe I should give myself a mumsnet break - it sucks up far too much of my time anyway!

Never crosses my mind no.
Do you have other reasons not to trust him?

No. Mainly because a lot of them sound so naive and the man has made up a whole heap of lies about his poor wife to the OW to get his dick wet

Well I don't have a husband as I divorced him after finding out about OW but no it's so statistically unlikely that it wouldn't cross/have crossed my mind. As pp said, do you have other reasons not to trust him?

No, as most wives, I think my man is an angel, who loves me sooooo much, he would never do something like that (yeah right).

In all honesty, the likelyhood of finding someone from Mumsnet dating your husband is minimal. But do you have some concerns a out him?

It is possible but unlikely. I once posted on here about someone and they found out!
Unfortunately I was cheated on by my ex and I have also found out I was the OW (not all OW actually know they are at first). I've often thought it would have done his wife a favour to find out how disrespectful their husband had been to them.
That said, I doubt they're posting about your husband. I think the posts are about MM who's wives aren't on here and if they did find out it would do them a big favour (having been there).

I too have a big fear my DH will be unfaithful, I think many do, but your levels of anxiety about it are way above acceptable aren't they.

Of course you can avoid mumsnet and see too much time on here as the problem but I really think you've got a lot of soul searching and questioning of your marriage and how to feel more secure in it to do.

I used to be just as insecure in the early years thanks to my past but I've worked through it to change with help of my DH whom I've always been honest with about my insecurities and luckily thought I was worth the effort for

No, it's not something I worry about, but I think I have slightly different views to infidelity etc than many. And possibly view marriage slightly differently too.

Having discovered what I have about my husband recently I would imagine there is at least one if not several mumsnetters that have shagged my husband.

I wonder if I described him and th efalse alias he used to cover his tracks to his wife and teenage kids at home if someone would recognise him.

Tempted to put out an appeal to see how many OWs reply- there cant be that many blokes out there using their wifes Minky clothes pegs as nipple clamps because he is too bloody tight to even invest in the proper kit!

Why do you think the details would match? Do you have any more concrete reason to think he's cheating?

I don't do this, I assume my husband is being faithful at the moment. This isn't because I'm deluded he'd 'never do it' but because I just tend to assume he is unless I had any reason to think otherwise. I have quite a good antenna for secretive, suspicious or routine-changing behaviour and have spotted it in a male family member who is having an affair, but my husband is probably like me, has plenty of opportunity (works away, meets other attractive intelligent people) but can't be arsed and genuinely doesn't want to risk the marriage. I would feel differently if there was any behaviour or evidence that led me to think otherwise.

No but for me the other way round.
When I found out about my DH's affair I didn't post my story here but leapfrogged onto others thread going through the same for advise.
I was scared that DH's OW found find my post, recognise herself and get to see my pain .....

A shame as I know I missed out on do much advice & support and the likelihood of her seeing was very minimal

I don't think that it is my husband but I do often post to the OW that she could be shagging a mumnetter's husband, someone she has made friends with on here. It's always ignored..

A friend of my wife is having an affair with a married guy and she sometimes posts on here. Not sure if married guys wife does but she is blissfully unaware.