Is it better to have loved and lost...

[Hestheone]

Or never to have loved at all?

I'm still struggling with an answer to this.

Thoughts?

Loved and lost. Definitely x

Why does it need an answer?
Serious question, not being flippant.

I think better not.
Can't miss something you don't know.

Absolutely loved and lost. When the pain ends you have happy memories from the earlier, more successful part of the relationship

I like the version that says "'tis better to have loved and lost, than to be stuck with the bugger the rest of your life".

It depends (matches oblique answer to op)

Do you really need an answer? Genuine question. Presumably you're pondering something that has already happened so there's not much point in dwelling on 'what ifs'.

Was it my post on another thread that prompted your question OP?

Oh and it wasn't me that said that crap statement by the way, it was my counsellor!

If they die before you its better to have loved and lost, if they turn out to be an asshole it wasn't love anyway it was mistaken identity.

Not necessarily.

I think faux has a point!! Totally depends on what you take away from the experience I think.

Yes handful it was,just gets me every time i hear it,no matter how stupid it is,just brings it all back.

I don't agree with it and I'm sorry if I was flippant

I get pure, unconditional love from my DS who I know will never desert me. I try not to regret anything but sometimes I wish I hadn't loved my stbxh as it hurt too much when I lost that love.

I agree with faux

My Love died. At the time I thought this phrase was bollocks and I wished we'd never met because of the pain.
Years later I look back and smile.
Definitely better to have loved and lost.

If you love you can't avoid losing at some point.