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Younger man - what do you reckon

33 replies

Shrivelleddate · 28/02/2015 14:20

Ok both single he's late 20s I think, I'm 37 and look it!
Seen him around at work, we don't work for same dept but cross paths. We've had polite friendly banter, he seems a little shy.
I won't see him out of work, not much chance to get to know him.
I was thinking of handing him my number and taking a risk. Want do you think? Worried I'm an deluded old crow!
Not bothered about work gossip as married people shag in the offices so two singletons swapping numbers would be small fry!

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Tobyjugg · 28/02/2015 14:23

Do it. What do you have to lose?

bluelamp · 28/02/2015 14:28

Rather than handing him your number why don't you suggest you meet up somehow out of work that could be a date/couldn't be a date depending how he wants to interpret it (something based on a common interest or that old classic 'I've got a spare ticket'). Give you a chance to spend some more time together and then you'd have a better idea if he's interested or not.

WildFlowerWoman · 28/02/2015 18:37

Are you sure he's interested? If so, then why not flirt with him and see if he makes a move on you? If not, then you could try giving him some hints. And if he still doesn't respond, move on and find someone else.

As for the age gap, I don't think it matters.

loveyoutothemoon · 28/02/2015 20:48

Oooh sounds exciting. Good to read something upbeat on here!
Go for it! Flirt a bit, have fun doing it!

PigletJohn · 28/02/2015 21:05

Handing him your number sounds awful.

You can suggest he joins you for a drink after work.

Nothing wrong with younger men, I've been one. But try not to take your teeth out or anything.

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Shrivelleddate · 28/02/2015 21:10

Well this is it, I don't know if he's interested but I think I've got nothing to lose by registering mine - have I? I only see him in passing in a claustrophobic meeting area so really difficult to flirt, get to know if he's interested. I'm also high up in company so he might not think I'd be interested in the guy who does the filing - but I am! I'm also quite shy so was just thinking of handing him my number with a smile and seeing what happens. Is that weird or creepy?!

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Shrivelleddate · 28/02/2015 21:11

Thanks John - no fillings yet at the age of 37 x

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beaglesaresweet · 28/02/2015 21:31

asking directly can be awkward- if he wants to refuse, has a GF or whatever, then he;d be put on the spot as no one wants to say 'no thanks' directly, so I can see why you want to give him your number instead, OP.

But handing it in silence is a bit odd, best to say 'call me if you want to go for a drink' or just 'give me a call sometime soon' with a smile. Mind you if he is very keen, he'd jump at it whichever way you do it Grin.

beaglesaresweet · 28/02/2015 21:34

what sort of banter did you have btw? if it was the right banter, his age doesn't matter!

Cariad007 · 28/02/2015 21:35

Go for it! FWIW, when DP and I got together he was 21 and I was 33 so I didn't really have any expectations. Nearly 5 years on we are still together and have a one year old DS. So you never know!

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Shrivelleddate · 28/02/2015 21:39

Eeek that's so lovely! I think I will go for it if the moments right this week. What's the worst that can happen right?

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WildFlowerWoman · 28/02/2015 21:49

Sorry to say but I think handing him your number with a smile and seeing what happens is a bit creepy. Well you did ask!

Much better to call him into your office and have a quiet word with him! Grin

PigletJohn · 28/02/2015 21:50

not in your office because of power dynamic.

Cariad007 · 28/02/2015 21:52

Actually yes come to think of it, just handing him your number might be a bit full on. Why not just ask him for a drink? Or organise office drinks for a few people and make your move then?

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Shrivelleddate · 28/02/2015 21:53

Nah it's ok, I haven't done all this for 15 yrs so any advice/feedback welcome x

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MadeMan · 01/03/2015 00:16

37 isnt that old really.

JeanSeberg · 01/03/2015 00:23

Never date a colleague.

Alibabsandthe40Musketeers · 01/03/2015 00:49

Jean I married a collegue. Why are people so weird about work mates getting together?

Barbarella · 01/03/2015 00:55

Do it, it doesn't sound like a big gap.

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Shrivelleddate · 01/03/2015 01:05

He's not a colleague really, different building, completely different jobs, just thrown together once a week for a random meeting. Also a temp worker. So just trying to figure out a way of striking up more conversation without coming across weird :)

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Silverdaisy · 01/03/2015 01:15

Alibab, how did you get together though? All situations are different. Many people who have had flings with colleagues which ended in an embarrassing situation. Not all end up in a long term relationship.

Jinglebells99 · 01/03/2015 08:47

I don't think you should, and not because of the age gap but because you say you are high up in the company and he is a temp admin. I would be concerned about the power imbalance. Although I suppose it's working out alright for Connie on Casualty :)

Jinglebells99 · 01/03/2015 08:50

I don't think I'd hand him my number either. If he is shy, he is hardly going to ring it, is he?! Suggest having a coffee or lunch, and check out whether he has a girlfriend. Do you know he's single ?

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Shrivelleddate · 01/03/2015 09:16

Yep single. I'm not in charge of him, I wouldn't cross that boundary.

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Alibabsandthe40Musketeers · 01/03/2015 09:26

silver one night stand at a work jolly Grin