always feeling paranoid hes up to something no good.

[ashaaima]

he works 4pm till 12am.through that time im ok at home with our daughter.after he comes home we are in bed upstairs .thats when i start hearing things in my head like what is he doing.whos that talking.wheres he going...its constant.what do i do about this?

Do you have any reason to suspect he's not where he says he is?

If not, why do you feel like this do you think? When my dps at work,I don't care who he's talking to, he's at work.

What does your dp do?

When you say you are hearing things, are they your thoughts, or do they seem like someone else talking?

it looks like someone talking or him.i hate this feeling that need to know and see every move of his.
he does things without talking through with me

Is he actually talking? Or are you not sure?

is he on the phone or something?

Do you mean you can hear him on the phone to someone?
Do you have any reason not to trust him?

im not sure.its only me having trust issues.how do i get rid of that?

I think you need to talk to someone in real life. Is he doing anything to make you suspicious or is your imagination running away with you or a bit of both?

What does your dh do when he gets home from work?

he does lie though.he says that he doesnt smoke green anymore,right.then why do i see evidence like paper cuts,scisors used,rizzla,the smell,his eyes red,his movement and talk???
ofcourse he dinys it everytime .
takeaway job driver,yeah.cant take a single day off!!!why???
talks about saving money,ok.im at home with baby dont go out dont spend anything,right.he sents them to his family without talking to me.so im confused!!!
SOMEBODY TELL ME WHAT IS HAPPENING HERE???

Deep breaths ashaaima.

Can you give us a bit of background?

Are any of these true?

You had a relatively short relationship before having a baby with him?

You are generally short of money, and you're not exactly certain about how much money you have as a household?

You don't see much of your friends?

no i was single when i met him.
no i dont think of beeing short of any money.
i have no friends or family.

when he comes home he brings food burger and chips.
then watches asian news,makes tea,goes for cigarete,all night stays up .morning sleeps

he needs to relax after work.
ok
what about me?
24/7 with our daughter.
i dont need any time for myself.

Ashaaima, you have lots (or have mentioned in lots of threads) your relationship with your DH since having your DC.
I think you need to have a chat with your GP about possible PND and make an appointment with Relate if you want to salvage your relationship and a chat to Womens Aid as to whether he is abusive or not.

Having as young baby is hard and exhausting, I think unless your DH is interested in changing his behaviour you need to come to an understanding with yourself that you are effectively a single parent and choose whether you would be happier separating.