... I did it!
In a nutshell handover is 6.30pm Sunday. He asked if we could alter it to 5pm to accommodate our older two dcs and I agreed. They no longer need accommodating so at handover this evening I said I assumed it was 6.30pm again? Nope. He has 'running about and stuff' to do.
So when I got home I sent him an email telling him how sad it is that less than three months after the conclusion of a long, stressful and expensive court process wrt the children, he is already preferring 'running about and stuff' to spending time with the dcs.
Won't change a sausage. However, it felt bloody marvellous 