what do i do?

[ohmothermaidenheadi]

Found out weds night that there was something going on with husband and another woman.
Found out yesterday he has fucked her.
What do I do?
What questions do I ask?
I'm just a total blank at the moment.

I'm really sorry you are experiencing this. If you don't end the marriage over this, he will do it again because you didn't end the marriage over this. It will go on and on and then instead of 13 years it will be 18 years or 20 years and you'll kick yourself for not having bailed out at 13 years.

Totally empathize with you wanting to "show him" by having your own fling and telling him about it. Really, though, you can "show him" by filing for divorce. I think men count on women forgiving them.

Is it an iPhone that he has? Messages can be retrieved via iTunes spotlight search if it is.