The long and short of it is that my evening job is stopping, and I'm having to take day shifts (I work alone in an office and due to safety i'm not allowed to be here alone anymore etc etc) so no i have to work during the day. I don't work from choice, purely from necessity and have found a good company that are flexible and understanding about family etc. My sis has agreed to have dd one half day, she will go to nursery another half day and I have asked my MIL (who doesn't work) to help another half day until dd starts pre-school in september. She has reluctantly said yes, but has put us on a guilt trip and now I feel really miffed as we desperately need the money. The other thing that is lingering also is that my SIL has DS, and when they are too old or pass away we will become her legal guardian and I will be her carer (she does not require a lot atm but will when she's older) I'm just a bit miffed that MIL cannot help for 5 hours per week on a temporary basis to help us get by. Am i asking too much?