How to feel better after a break up?

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What is the quickest way to feel better after a break up?

Quick background I had an on/ off relationship with a guy for about 4 years!

Tonight I finally ended it and I need to move on! I don't want to be sad! I don't want to be dysfunctional like drinking or sleeping with people coz I feel shit!

I want to feel positive! What's the best way?

The guy wasn't right for me but I do love him and it makes me feel shit that I wasted 4 years with someone that did not progress atall! More than anything it feels terrible that I will never talk to him ever again!

So anyway how to feel positive and not sad? Best tips needed!

Absolutely no contact.

Immerse yourself in engaging activities.

Hang out with lots of good people.

Have ready distractions whenever you find yourself tempted to brood.

and again, really, absolutely NO contact: remove from all social media. Do not respond to any contact he initiates, however bait-filled. And definitely do not initiate any contact yourself.

Meet up with old friends, meet up with new friends! Just friends friends friends
That's what helped me anyway!
No contact is a good way to go also

Well said GoatsDoRoam. also how about a hairstyle/makeover/new clothes/beauty treatment - something to make yourself feel good and pampered?

You haven't wasted 4 years, put it down to experience and move on.

Thank you for the replies! I will try all of them!

I like the idea of a new hair colour / style but I know dark hair suits me best! I might try a dark red

Haha go for it. there are websites where you can download a pic of yourself and then play around with your hair colour...not sure how it works though but it could be fun