How do you decide?
And does it matter - I mean does it have any legal standing?
My widowed mum has a twin sister who insists she is next of kin. She has got herself down as next-of-kin on hospital forms etc.
They currently live together but this is going to change for reasons of health (mum currently in hospital).
My mum is OK but confused - I can't put the question to her.
She has two children: me, and my brother who is older than me.
It's an issue because we need to make some big decisions soon, and there isn't agreement as things stand.
Power of Attorney for Health and Welfare is currently held by her sister and my brother and myself, so that isn't going to to answer the question.