Would this turn you off?

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Just joined Match.com. got chatting to a local bloke. Hes 39. One og the first things he saod was its terrifying being single at this age! Needy or just banter?!
I think I felt a bit annoyed as he has a point! Im 36.

Would not put me off.

It wouldn't put me off either. I think I would agree with him. At least he is being honest.

No I agree.. Just banter and wouldn't put me off. It's prob a good thing as shown he hasn't thought to hard about what to say/not to say

Why are you annoyed because you think he has a point? How is what he said needy?

I'm just reading too much into it.... I'm always looking for excuses or non existent red flags! We are meeting!

Wouldn't put me off, no.

Lots if things would put me off but not that. What else has he said, has he has long term relationships in his past? A guy who writes that he has never had a proper relationship and instead has a history of short rellies and one night stands would absolutely put me off though.

It is a jungle out there at any age so I know what he means!

Have a good time

That on it's own no....

Stop being so picky....

You sound like me

I guess you're worried it means 'I'll get in a relationship with anyone to avoid being single'.

I don't think it does, necessarily. It might just be honest. At least it means he wants a relationship. Benefit of the doubt, I think.

Sounds like a normal sort of "we''re all in this together" kind of icebreaker thing to say. Wouldn't put me off.

I did however once stop messaging a man who told me that "wheelies are for boys" (as in the bicycle sort).

I can't abide sexism.

No wouldn't put me off, think he's trying to break the ice. Why does it sound needy?

I'd go on a date anyway, he is looking for somebody not just a shag I guess. that is a good thing on on line dating.

He is trying to break the ice, not needy imo

I would never be put off by one comment on its own (unless it was unambiguously offensive/scary/creepy). I would get rid if multiple red flags started to pop up, but not just one ambiguous comment.

Wouldn't put me off. Just harmless banter really. Trying to be approachable etc.

I had one guy who messaged me saying I would be great... for his dad... who was 80 (I was 29 at the time). And he'd even attached a photo of his dad. Did my confidence the world of good....

I did meet dh online though so it's never good to give up!

(Dh wasn't the dad. Just to be ultra clear).

I think it's a bit of an odd thing to say straight off to be honest. But then again I'm always putting my foot in it so wouldn't necessarily judge

Does he mean 'because all the women I meet have got kids or want them' ?

it would be scary if you'd been in a relationship for a long time then became single and on match.com at 39. He has a point

He just said something completely normal and OP starts a thread about it ? He's right it must be terrifying .