I only ask cos PIL are down on the 30th, DH is away on the 3rd for the next 3 weeks.
when they come down MIL tends to get a little 'enthusiastic' with DS which I don't mind so much but this is an on going prob we've had since he was 3 weeks old. (some of u may remember a thread I started at said time) anyhow the latest vice is your still BF, and he doesn't settle staight away at night she'll say to me 'are you sure he's having enough milk' - erm yes I am actually cos when we're left alone just me and him there's no problems at all. apparently he doens't need a routein, nor does he need his nap times.
now don't get me wrong I'm not ungratefuly for her help - feeding his solids/changing the bum/bathing etc more than happy for all of that as it gives me 5 to relax and also she likes it as obviosuly she doens't see DS that often.
it's just the comments and the feeling i'm being watched all the time, and i'm not doing my best by DS. Yesterday I had a row with DH about it - afterall i'll be buggered if he would want to spend a week with my parents alone - he didn't even want to do it for a w/e still his arguement is 'I should be grateful cos his mum will buy us stuff/take DS if I want her to' - thing is thou I don't bloody well want her to buy stuff (yes that's ungrateful but I don't want it taken fro granted iycwim.)
DH has finally started to support me more where MIL is concerend but not always - and it winds me up as I feel they're discussing it/snipping behind my back.
(my parents on the other hand live closer, but they do not come in and say ooh no your not tired let's keep u awake all the time till your ratty/arsey - they sayy nope keep to your routein, if he naps now let him nap now) and I know a lot of u will say it's only a week, but it's the after marth - a week fair enough but 3 weeks to sort him back out again and settle him down. and again a lot will say relax about the routein but he seems to do 1000 times better whne there's some sort of structure to his day than when there's not iycwim?
(this name is recongniseable, but please don't mention it as DH know's my log on name)