Just thinking as supporting a close friend who has discovered her husband cheating for the second time with the same woman. Seeing her go through the motions of having to check his phone and emails (the conditions she has set) again is soul destroying. She seems to think he is genuinely remorseful and she can some how 'control' the situation by checking up on him.
From my own experience, rarely do cheaters want to let go of the ow when they get caught. Only when THEY decide that the affair has ended that is when it ends. I wish I could make her see this. Am I just jaded or is there some truth to my statement? I stayed with a cheater for years and heard all the apologies under the sun. As soon as I thought we were back on the right track...he would start again. My mental state took such a battering I had to leave the relationship for my own sanity. I loved him to death but it was killing me.
Seeing my friend going through this is upsetting and even more so when I know the script too well. It's no way to live checking phones etc every single day to make sure your husband is being faithful.