Please tell me it gets better

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We've just separated, trying to divvy up finances and agree on when each other sees the children. The children bit seems ok so far but the finance bit is so stressful.

Once the finances are sorted does it get easier (provided no one feels they were taken advantage of on finances)? Feeling quite raw and vulnerable now.

X left DS and I at Easter, I can say it definitely gets better. Finances can be a difficult subject even where relationship is good ... hang in there. We've agreed an informal family arrangement: childcare maintenance as prescribed by many websites (we used the .gov.uk one); 50/50 split of childcare and school/education related needs; and just agreed 50/50 for birthday costs too. DS is overnight with his Dad Tu/We/Sa...it's working ok so far. But definitely better now than back at Easter...

Mum4, did you earn similar amounts which is why you went 50/50?

No, I earn more than x but we agreed in 50/50.