Bereavement

[frogmore6]

My Ex mother in law passed away this morning. Ex DH phoned to let me know.
How do I handle this? do I send flowers? I'm confused, someone kindly advise.
Thanks.

Did you get on with her when you were married? Did you still see her after the divorce? Do you have children who still had a relationship with her?

I wouldn't feel the need to send flowers (who to, anyway - ex FiL? he'll probably be overwhelmed with flowers etc) but the question for me would be whether or not to send a condolence card and/or go to the funeral. I think if ex FiL is still alive, and you didn't hate your ex MiL, it would be nice to send a brief condolence card. And if you liked her/got on with her during or after the marriage, then it's appropriate to go to the funeral (or if you think any DCs you have will need support at the funeral); if not, don't.

When my ex-FIL passed away I sent a card of sympathy to his widow. Didn't particularly like either of them

Thanks exexpat. I spoke to her after marriage and she was very sweet to me when I moved to this country. I am dreading attending the funeral, but will probably go for my DC's sake. I do NOT get on with SiL and BiL.