So mad with ex and my own mother. Need to vent!!

[mummyOF4darlings]

Yesterday 8 year old dd fell over at school and has broken her wrist, I got the call at 1.15 (luckilly I wasnt at work) so headed to school the first aider told me she was pretty sure there was a break and needed to go to hospital. I have my 6 year old and my 3 year old twins all at that school so didnt know what to do about them getting home from school.

First port of call was dds dad I had already seen him on fb earlier that day and knew he was working lates this week so should of been around to give us a lift and then got him to stay with dd so I couild get back for the others, but he wasnt answering his phone I txt him which I didnt get a reply to until we were already at hospital.

I rang my mum and asked if she can get the kids from school and she made me feel really bad for even asking, saying she had just got in from work and shes supposed to be looking after sisters 3 kids so she can go midwife. She was been so stroppy about it, now i remembewr why I never ask her for help unless an emergency. She said she would ring me back and that I had to contact there other grandma see if she could do it, unfortunately she couldnt either and their dad works miles away so couldnt ask him. But luckilly she said she would ask her daughter and she was able to come for them other wise i have no idea what I would have done.

So get to hospital and dds dad txt back asked if she was ok, I explained the situation and he just said "ok" WTF how very concerned!! I was a bit annoyed so gave him a call and explained dd is ok but very upset think she would like to see him and I also asked if he wouldnt mind giving us a lift home because the taxi to hospital cost me 10.00 and it would be another 10.00 home and I rewally cant afford to pay it out this week. No was his answer not enough petrol to collect his gf from work and then gwt to work himself.... Sorry maybe im over reacting and shouldnt be relying on anyone but im fcking fed up of having nobody to rely on in times of need. Im a single mum of 4 and trying my best to juggle home life and a job and its bloody hard. My other kids dad is great and I know he would of helped if he was around but he works miles away which is always a problem in an emergency.

Lucky my boyfriend who I have only been with 2 months very kindly offered to pick us up I didnt even need to ask him it was his first concern when I told him We were at hospital.

Sorry for the big rant its been winding me up since yesterday :(

But you do have people to rely on, but at just the worst possible moment they weren't all available in an emergency except your boyfriend. That makes you fortunate rather than not. Some people have absolutely no-one. Not a soul

Obviously the ex is a an ex cos he's an inconsiderate twat.

As for the others, sounds like they were engaged elsewhere, not really their fault.

Just remember there's nothing like relying on yourself. Least you have a nice boyfriend.

I sympathise with you op. Juggling four dcs is a lot of work. In an emergency you just want to focus on the dc that needs you the most but you end up having to sort out all the logistics for the other dcs first.

I think your family should of helped you. I also don't think people fully understand the juggling involved with four dcs when they only have one or two dcs.

If it was the first time ive asked for help and nobody could help I would of understood sometimes things cant be helped but its not. I mean ffs I had a smear test booked a few months back and I had to re arrange twice because my mum kept letting me down at last minute. Everyone else who I could ask work long hours and wouldnt be fair of me to ask them to have time off work. Its so annoying, she knows I have her down as an emergency contact at school and things like that but I dont think I could trust her.