What is the normal level of texting in early stage of seeing someone?

[cleopatrathegreat]

I have a pretty rubbish history of dating/relationships. I was wondering what the "norm" was regarding keeping in contact with someone via text in the early stages of seeing someone.

I ask because I have been seeing a new man for about 5 weeks. On our first initial dates we seemed to text every few days or so, taking it in turns to initiate a conversation.

He is a teacher and is on half term this week. I saw him on Saturday, I know he went home to visit his parents in another town from Sunday until today. I texted a couple of days ago, he responded (it was a "hi, how are you?" "yeah I'm fine" type of text). I have'nt heard anything back since. Because I initiated the last conversation, I don't want to seem clingy by texting him first again. I'm starting to feel a bit insecure because I have'nt heard from him. Am I just being a bit clingy/insecure/weird?

What would others expect at this stage of seeing someone?

I really don't think there is a norm. I'm 42 and a month into a new relationship which is going really well. We are texting when we're not together like teenagers with a new phone

I am sure some people would find that utterly suffocating!

As a guy I think most guys are rubbish at talking and communicating. For them, a text is usually the easy option and so if you don't hear, I don't think it is great TBH. There may be a valid reason but it takes a few seconds to tell you what he's thinking...

I would have thought after this amount if time it would have got to a higher level than the basics. Believe me, if I was dating someone who was special, she would bloody well know about it!

I don't buy into the tit for tat approach either-be bold and rake the lead. If you don't get an equivalent response in return, it's probably bad news...sorry.

When my DP and I got together he didn't text much and rarely phoned.

Not because he didn't care but he isn't the sort to phone for a chat. If he has something to say then fine but he doesn't just phone for the sake of phoning. So I disagree that it means he doesn't care or whatever.

Oh and we're married now and he phones me everyday.