Sorry this might be long...
I have been with my dp for 6 years, when started to sleep together he noticed a couple of scars I have on my body. After a little while he asked me about them and I told him it was where my father had stabbed me when I was little, I told him all about how he was a very violent man and how I had suffered a brain injury when I was a baby from him picking me up over his head and slamming me into the ground and how he used to beat me reguarly but I was so young I didn't even realise it wasn't 'normal' until I had grown up. My father moved away and I haven't seen him for years. It was really hard to tell my dp about it all but I trusted him enough to tell him.
What has this got to do with now? Well, my brother got married at the weekend and he decided to invite my father, I felt sick and nervous about seeing him but I went to the wedding for my brother. When my father walked in I was shocked because he looked so old and he came up to me and gave me a really big hug and a kiss, it really threw me but I managed to 'keep it together' for my brother.
I've been stuggling with all of these mixed feelings all weekend and I tried to talk to dp about them earlier, "It's hard to believe that that old man is the same man who used to beat me to within an inch of my life isn't it?" I said to him, "He used to beat you up? I didn't know that!" he says.
I am so hurt that he can't remember the things I have told him not just once but everytime the subject of my father has come up. I feel like he just doesn't care enough to remember something that important, if somebody I loved told me the same thing I wouldn't/couldn't just forget it. He can't understand why I am upset that he has, he thinks I am being over emotional and I'll be ok when my period starts!