I know it' Sunday but can I ask a bumsex question....?

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This is a question of advance preparation you see.... Umm, not being au fait with this particular technique I just wondered if there was a 'best' position for the beginner. Well, beginners obviously . I think I'm getting the other important points - being properly aroused, lube and er, large small drink first.

What a thing to be thinking about at 8.46am on a Sunday morning.

Hopefully someone more useful will be along shortly...

The problem with bumsex is that there will come an occasion when it gets extremely messy. For that reason alone, it should be avoided.

Oh good, I assumed so, but wondered if in my innocence I was missing the blindingly obvious 'tie yourself in several knots, bend over backwards and stick a cauliflower in your ear' position that everyone else knows about.

Getting it in is extremely weird and not a little painful but once it's there it's OK. Take it slow with a lot of specifically designed slime.

And that's my last word on the subject

Put an old towel on the bed. yogi

I would suggest the spooning position.

Earthworms, it's not catching it i am worried about, i don't want to see it at all. I can't be alone in thinking this!

Use a condom, otherwise you'll have to think very carefully about farting later. And make sure you're as horny as hell first - a bit of light rimming and a lot of lube.'Tis only the porn stars who appear to have the ability to ram one straight up there

Have a fabulous Sunday morning.

Only one thing to say

Why?

Take it very slowly, it feels bloody strange at first. Quite pleasurable once you get going though

Lube, lube and more lube. When you think you've used enough, use more. And doggy style seems to work best.

We've not had a messy experience yet, so I wouldn't worry. If it helps, poop beforehand.

Good luck!

I'm very experienced in this department and would advise against doggy first. Doggy is a position that allows for very deep, fast penetration that will be too much at first. Beginners should use spoons and work their way up to doggy. Doggy is much more likely to hurt you than feel good atm.

And messiness isn't a reality of bumsex at all. Poo is a reality of amateur bumsex. Douche half an hour before and you'll never be messy.

Thank you for all your thoughts, most enlightening. Signora, not this Sunday, it's more of a medium term plan (not very spontaneous I know, but I feel a bit of prep is required). Hoping for an alternative plan this evening though .

It's not messy - not ime.

Well I just thought I'd drop in and say. I'm proud to say I'm an anal virgin. I was asked during a O.N.S if I'd ever tried it, now whether he was just curious about my sexual past I'll never know. I just said UUgh no that's disgusting, but each to their own. xx

Bumsex isn't messy, doesn't hurt and is fun. Honest.

And no need to douche.

Don't eat any sweetcorn for a couple of days beforehand.

As ehric says above, there is certainly no need to douche. However, if you're having any doubts at all then it certainly helps on a psychological level to know that everything is squeaky clean.

Lovehoney do a number of cheap douches and even have videos on how to use them:-

www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=952

video here:-

www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/buyers-guide/how-to-use-an-anal-douche/

Another thing to say, certainly at first, lots of lube. When you think it's enough, just add a bit more - trust me on this.

Also, consider anal for him as well, there was a thread recently here about it:-

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1799742--Another-dtd-thread-with-poss-tmi-you-have-been-warned

If you're doing a bit of research then try googling ''Tristan Taormino'' she's an American woman who has produced a lot of good books and dvds on different aspects of sex:-

www.amazon.co.uk/Ultimate-Guide-Anal-Women-Guides/dp/1573442216

If you are having unprotected sex and he is going to ejaculate inside you, be prepared for a moment about 3 hours later where you think you are going to lose it in your pants (but you're actually not) - this is when the sperm comes out.

I take it you weren't here for the River Island jeans thread? If you weren't, try finding it because you take it up the shitter.

'If you are having unprotected sex and he is going to ejaculate inside you, be prepared for a moment about 3 hours later where you think you are going to lose it in your pants (but you're actually not) - this is when the sperm comes out.'

Charming.

Expat could you have phrased it better?

I recommend lots of lube and clitoral stimulation (but definitely not to the point of orgasm). Get him to insert a lubed finger, then two and make sure he has plenty on his penis. Spooning is a great first time position and you can easily switch to doggy if you want.

Make sure he goes slow, relax and enjoy.

I have not found it messy, although others have, so be prepared. I have extremely intense orgasms during anal sex, I hope you do too OP.