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Stepson and new baby

29 replies

AuntyVirus · 22/05/2013 21:44

Hi I have already posted this in legal, I'm just wanting a bit more advice/ support please .

Last week my ss girlfriend gave birth to his first child but her second . He lives with girlfriend and her daughter who calls ss dad.
Ss has told me and his dad today that his girlfriend has no intensions of putting his name on baby's birth certificate. He has known this for a few months but was hoping she would change her mind , this is not the case she is still sticking to her decision .
As you can imagine ss is distraught at her choice and does not know what to do.
I tried to call his girlfriend yesterday just to see how she was and how baby was but she never answered my call which was unusual as we usually have a good relationship .
I don't know what to do should I try calling her again to see if she ok , I don't want to pester her as I know she more than likely just can't be bothered with visitors . Or do I leave it and wait for her to contact us which I don't think will happen .

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KalevalaForMePlease · 28/05/2013 03:10

Hi Aunty, I am so sorry you are going thought this at what should be a happy and exciting time for you all. It all sounds like a terrible situation. Thanks

AuntyVirus · 28/05/2013 04:30

Thankyou for replying . It is a horrible situation to be in I want to be excited , to be able to go and visit grandson and show him off to the rest of our family and friends but it sadly looks as though we won't get chance .

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pajamapants1 · 28/05/2013 18:52

Maybe you could suggest your dss talks to the healthvisitor when she goes to check on gf and baby and see if she will speak to her about what is going. My dh used to just ask for a quiet word if he was concerned about anything.
Hope things get better for you all.

Springdiva · 28/05/2013 19:03

I think I would encourage my son to run a mile tbh - no doubt this view will receive a torrent of criticism.
You could be setting yourselves up for years of upset, and, possibly, wouldn't be doing DGC favours if it causes stress and anger in its DM.
Also would do paternity check. Sadly it looks as if she believes her mother's lifestyle is the way to go.

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