Dating sites, what am I doing wrong, not a sniff of interest!

[mummytowillow]

I've been single for four years, and divorced for two years. I have a good life, a bit skint but aren't we all, lovely daughter and some good friends.

But I don't really get out and about. I've been out in the pubs with some of the mums from school but it seems to me people just don't meet like that anymore (I'm 43).

So, after a recent weekend away to visit some old friends, they convinced me to go on some dating website. The male friend said I'm gorgeous and the men will be messaging me like crazy

Female friend said the same, she is dating someone she met on a site and so is male friend. So I though in for a penny in for a pound.

I joined Match.com, profile is on there but can't subscribe until I get paid. Also put profile on Plenty of Fish. I have photos and a profile, which I thought was OK. I don't think I'm a minger, reasonably attractive etc.

In a week I've had 67 views on Match, no messages, and nothing, yes nothing on POF. WTF! I though POF was a guaranteed

So, what do you think I'm doing wrong, if in fact I am doing anything wrong?

Which are the better sites to go on, or should I give internet dating a miss?

What should my profile say, any tips would be appreciated.

I've just spoken to my best friends husband, he tells it like it is and he thinks I've got something on my profile that is scaring them off As he also thinks I would have had loads of messages.

I met DP through Lovestruck in 2010. I was 42 and he was 46 and we both have children from past relationships. Last summer we bought a house together and now live with my two (teens) and his DD stays in school hols. Step parenting has its challenges but we are very happy together and confident that we will grow even more old together.

Hope you are as fortunate as we are, one day.

I have dipped my toe into OL dating ( to keep sane I think) and am 47 not lied about my age. I would say I am average looking, I have had an amazing response that on the face of it look and sound normal blokes. So mummy I would suggest it maybe something in your profile? I am sure lots of people lie about age but my view is if someone is going to be so narrow minded about women in their 40's or mature ladies they can get lost and I am not interested. Hope that helps

Firstly, don't lie about your age. If you want to meet someone it's a bad start.

Secondly, there are tens of thousands on POF. You have to play the game- start fishing.

I would prepare two generic approaches, one reserved and you, one a bit racier and what you might like to be. Then I would send out twenty each to forty possible matches, and see what happens.

I am older than you, was inundated ( without being very attractive), got six dates in a week and am togther with one of them four months later.