My dp is going away for two night for his brother's stag do this summer. I love him so much and trust him 100%. I know deep down that I don't have anything to worry about, but I've never been in a situation where a partner has gone on a stag do, and its starting to play on my mind.
I'd prefer if this didn't turn into a debate about stag do's, as I think everyone has an opinion which should be respected. The idea of a strip club makes me feel very uncomfortable, but I have mentioned that I would not stop him, as it's not my place to stop him from doing anything! My dp (who has attended a couple of stag do's) said he has never been to a strip club and has no interest in them.
I said that I saw private dances as very inappropriate. He asked what a private dance actually was, I explained, and he said he wouldn't have seen that as inappropriate himself, but said that if it made me feel better, if the opportunity for a private dance ever presented itself, he would say no.
So far, there has been no mention of strippers for this stag do, but I don't know if they are part of the plan and it just hasn't been mentioned to me.
I know I don't have to worry. Even if there is a strip club, I know I can trust him and he respects my boundaries.
I think the reason I'm worried, is that the weekend he is going is actually my birthday (he feels bad about this, but I said it was ok, because I know there are a lot of guys going, and they were realy struggling to find a date when everyone was free)
If it was a normal weekend he was going l would just keep busy and give myself permission to have a bit of silly irrational worry (I don't even know what I'm actually worrying about! Writing this is actually making me realise how silly I'm being!) but I don't want to worry on my birthday, I want to feel happy and relaxed.
I being silly, I know. Does anyone understand how I feel? My dp is just lovely, very trustworthy and honest.
I do sometimes worry about getting hurt, maybe that doesn't help!