Found messages DP says they are from ages ago

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Found messages that DP of 4 years sent to his ex gf asking her to pick him up after he had been on a night out, this was the night he didn't come in till half 4.

Then other messages go on to contain how he thinks of her every day, how gorgeous and sexy she is etc etc btw how unhappy he is... News to me....she has responded to these. I have also found that he had been in contacted with her the day I found the messages via Facebook this time..

When I finally asked him about them he said they were from years ago, then changed to months ago... And now he is saying that she sent a smiley face that happened to be on his night out .. He says they are not big deal because he sent them while drunk months ago (btw) I saw the dates they were recent I am totally floored, upset and sick by this, while send messages
Like that when you are meant to be out with your friends..

I want to believe him but my gut is telling me different. Please help me get some perspective on this.

Please don't stay with him just because you're afraid your DS might lose his job.

If you end up staying it should be for the right reasons.
I.e, that you could trust your DP.
Can you?

He can't sack your son but it's possible your son will make a choice that he wants nothing more to do with this liar who's hurt his mum. He's an adult. Leave that up to him.

Of course he's slept with this woman.

oh well, that's alright then. Lucky you, eg? What are you moaning about.

I hope the sarcasm there is coming across so thick you're having to wade through it!

eh not eg