Just come back from a weekend with my new boyfriend. I like him a lot but I'm dreading seeing him again coz I've come back home aching all over coz he was so unbelievably rubbish in bed.
I'm really not a bitch , I believe that sex becomes better over time and even if a man had premature problems to start with I would be the first to shrug it off and try again ... I like to give a man confidence in bed and always try to show a guy what I like ... but omg this weekend hasn't been like I imagined . I'm sore from his heavy handedness and his obvious lack of experience but how do you approach the subject with someone who is already insecure ?? His ex's all slept with other people and he has major trust issues .
He's 29 so hardly a virgin , he struggled to even find where to put it from behind . He bit my nipples so hard I thought he had bit them off and as for him on top omg he was thrusting into me , shaking whilst pulling at my shoulder . The insides of my thighs hurt and my bits just ... ache .
I ended up finishing him with my hand this morning coz I couldn't cope any longer . And even then he didn't even seem to do the finishing off bit right , most of it was left in his foreskin (sorry tmi)
He is of course convinced Im enjoying it and even though I told him him leaning on me hurt he still carried on . I told him my nipples were sore but he went off in a mood last night coz he thought I had orgasmed from him licking me and then coz of his lack of intercourse skills all I could do was moan that he was hurting me .
So ... how do you teach a man sex skills which I guess you always take for granted . He seems to have no idea at all . I do mean he actually seems like a virgin (he has kids so I know hes not )
Sex is really important to me and I was actually
looking forward to doing it with him definitely not expecting to try to avoid sex as much as possible . I do normally enjoy a lot sex and wouldn't usually hesitate telling a man what I like but I'm used to sex with men who are experienced in bed
I actually want to perhaps help him to get better coz I know some women ain't like me and they would critisize him , I don't want to hurt him but I can't bring myself to have sex with him again right now ..can you teach a man of nearly 30 sex skills you would just expect all men have???..