Someone I've been with a while now told me 'butterflybee, you're intelligent" and then next sentence said "Intelligent people can be manipulative." I called him on it, he denied he'd implied anything at all and refused to appologise even when I said it hurt my feelings (like a kid). Then he raised it to I'm like my seriously manipulative and EA ex, who he knows all about. At which point I flipped and he started appologising.
I think it's over, I just want a double check as my instincts are obviously a bit off. There have been other, more subtle, ishoos but I don't think I can be with someone who can imply such a horrible thing.