what do you use (techniques etc) to dispel fear created by your ex

[yummymommy1]

..after all its just one person , which i find amazing as he sits at home planning ways to create havoc and fear, on his laptop...

We should have a section on Mumsnet for this ! apart from wine and chocolate of course..excercise, being with freinds and family, but mainly mind techniques? maybe to see this person as small and pathetic/powerless?

How about this... it is amazing, incredulous, gobsmaking that he does this... its an incredible waste of a human life... rather than creating havoc and fear if he put a fifth of the effort into doing a bit of good, think how better the lives that surround him would be. What a major was of time..

Given your other 2 threads, an additional one on this topic is singularly inappropriate and I suggest you ask mumsnet to delete it until such time as you've used legal measures to protect your dd in order that you can call on the power of the law to demonstrate to your ex just how ineffective and pathetic he and his threats are.

Once you've got the necessary safeguards in place you can give some consideration to the whys and wherefores of his behaviour but, until then, you're best advised not to waste time on inessential pondering/navel gazing.