any one have any mantras to share about moving forwards and away from ex?

[dippyDoohdah]

hi.my counselling ending this week and I am near decree nisi with emotionally abusive ex..have posted before so will not go into back story but this relationship has been bad for me and our little boys. occasionally on mumsnet, you see brilliant gems and phrases that really hit home...
.anyone got any mantras they would share, with a general theme of leaving abusive ex, future being better? then I will stick them on phone, on fridge, for those moments of self doubt that comes from EA..thanks ladies/gents...

One I liked, from a song is: I am woman hear me roar!

The tiger proverb reminded me!

Oh God - I have so many!!!

'Anyone can lead lead you to the abyss, only you can step over the edge'
'What doesn't kill you makes you stronger'
'No man lies so boldly as he who is indignant' - all 3 are Neitzer

'Put on your lippy and face the world'

'I am stronger than I will ever believe'

'And breathe.....'

And of course the good old 'fuck 'em all!!!!'

This one comes from a lady called Susan Elliott who wrote a fab book called Getting Past Your Breakup which I have found very useful. To be used when confronted with any relationship crap: Its doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter. By the third one it really doesn't!

if you're already walking on thin ice, you may as well dance!

perhaps our eyes need to be washed by our tears once in a while so that we can see life with a clearer view again....Alex tan

stand up and walk out of your own history...(Phil MC Graw)..love it!

the best way to make your dreams come true is to wake up

whenever you fall, pick something up

Oh dippy, those are good!

Life is too short to be anything but happy :)
Good luck with moving on, wishing you and your boys lots of happy days in the future xx

Leo...thank you for your good wishes! salbertina..I wanted to give some inspiration back as a thank you..may find a few more yet!

You are going to have a full wall Good for you, admire your spirit and fortitude.

What a great idea! I am looking for inspiration too. The one which sticks for me at the moment iis
'Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain'
Without waxing on too much, what I love is the word 'learning' which implies you can do it even if you don't know how by trying and applying!

Whether you believe you can or you can't, you are right. Henry Ford.

turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you

It's not the size of the dog in a fight. It's the size of the fight in the dog. ( mark twain)

You can never cross the ocean, unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore. (Christopher Columbus)

Barn's burnt down -
now
I can see the moon.

(From a 17th C Japanese poet and samurai, apparently - just googled it!)

Great to see you doing so well, dippy.

Unashamedly marking place.

These are all lovely by the way :D

I love this thread! Thanks nickname, still fluctuating thus the thread..trying to give a bit back too. Like the barn/moon.
"You can't be brave if you've only ever had wonderful things happen to you"

At certain moments, I found myself reciting from "We're going on a bear hunt":

Can't go over it, can't go under it, have to go through it!

Like labour - there's no way out but through!

"in the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me lay an invincible summer" Albert Camus

"When you're in hell, keep walking." Churchill.

Don't let the bastards get you down.

Nothing to add. Just wanted to say that this thread has come at a remarkably apt time for me and I am so pleased to have seen it.