Evening,
Sat here having a big cry. This time last year I was 20 weeks pregnant with 3yo ds and found out my husband was cheating. He left us for ow then returned just before Christmas. He then left us 5 weeks after ds was born. He was horrible to me. Right from when I found out about affair to now. He is being as difficult as he can about everything - always turns up late to see kids, says I've got no right to house because he is paying bills (I'm in maternity leave but couldn't afford house on my own anyway, rubbing my face in it that he has been going on dates, went on holiday for 3 weeks when ds started shook although he promised him he would be there, took my car off me (gave it back later). He wont reply to any of my solicitor letters for a divorce ad refuses to sort a solicitor out to represent him. He seems tithing that because he pays for things (because I reduced my hours to look after the kids) that he can do what the hell he likes. It is all about control with him.
He was due to get children at 10.30 today. He turned up at 12 and text me demanding to know where we were. He let himself in the house, made a drink, made himself some lunch, watched the tv and set programmes to record - basically treated it like e still lives here. He then picked he kids up and ha them for few hours before returning half hour early with them.
I just said to him that it isn't his house anymore and I don't want him walking in whenever he wants. He saunas long as he pays bills he can do what the f he likes. He then said he will have kids in 2 weeks time and will have them in the house overnight and I can F off out of the house because I have no right to it - that he pas for it for the kids not me. He said he sees me as a live in nanny.
I'm so upset now. I am doing everything I can to keep my children happy. I absolutely cannot stand him. I have now arranged to go back to work early and get a nanny to have children just so I can get some money coming in. What can I do to get some control back. Really cannot take this.