ex has told me my nieces and nephews aren't my nieces and nephews any more

[sausagesandwich34]

I was with my ex for 13 years

when we met his nieces and nephews were aged between 1 month and 8 years

I treated them as my nieces and nephews, birthday/christmas presents, christmasses and family occasions spent together, odd bit of babysitting -the usual

one of them has applied for a job where I work -my ex mentioned it and I said I hoped she got the job but it would be strange working with my niece and he started ranting about they weren't my family and nothing to do with me -they are the dcs family but not mine

not sure why but he really upset me with that comment -I know technically he is right but still...

Since I'm assuming DN who has applied for the job is now 21 (8+13) and the other DN is 13, I think they are way old enough to form their own friendships with you and Ex is being a twat.

there's 4 of them 2 nephews, 2 nieces

the one that has applied for the job is 19

so yes old enough but the ex is very good at making people not do things as it's easier not to IYKWIM