He is in the middle of a self proclaimed midlife crisis and has said the most unbelievable cruel things to her.
She's gorgeous, clever, slim, pretty and very funny. He has got her desperately trying to think of the 'long game' and keep it together until he comes to his senses. Their youngest had his 1st birthday today, they have a 3r old and a 6 yr old.
He doesn't do much with the children, does a solo sport for 4 hours every weekend and never takes her out. He also told her friends he was going to leave her a month ago but we all were outraged on her behalf and he's done some half hearted efforts since then. He said at the time that he would love to keep the kids because he loves them but it was an obvious lie and i told him so, as if he has them for the day by himself he counts down the time until they're in bed.
Now, the crux, we live in the Middle East. The spouses here are on visas tied to the working spouses job. Housing is tied in, schools fees, the whole shebozzle. Her home country is the other side of the world, is not the same as his and also, she hasn't worked since coming here and at least has live in child care here, which would help.
He was a friend of mine but i can see that i can't stay friends with them both. I am so angry that he's done this to her, just as they completed their family and she will be left struggling with her (very spirited) kids and trying to work. I want her to kick him out and trigger the 'LOSS' that madchoc always talks about.