AIBU to expect my partner to quit trying to make me 0&gasm?

[desperatehousebunny]

Okay so I can't come.

I like sex, I find my partner very attractive, I love him to bits.

But I am not able to, well, reach the famed peak. I have never had one without a, er, toy.

I tried being honest, but he sees it as a challange. And everyday it feels like a marathon. I'm getting tired of the whole game. I just want my old sweet guy back, not this manic soldier with a mission.

How to make him realise that?

Just tell him that orgasms don't like to be hunted down, and if chased they tend to run away!

Are you enjoying any of his efforts? You need to tell him that what he is doing isn't helping. Can't he use the toy on you? You use the toy while giving him oral sex? Using the toy whist having sex?

Not having an orgasm through penetration is perfectly normal. If it ain't gonna happen you need to find mutually pleasurable ways of getting off together. Tell him what you want him to do, and if that is to just back off, tell him!

Pass him the toy to use on you...

Get a we-vibe and plenty of lube

Very few women reach orgasm through PIV alone, and if your partner is trying to get you off by pumping away inside you for hours it's not going to work.

When you say you only come with a sex toy, do you use the toy when you're with your partner or only when you're alone? Playing with it together should make the whole thing more enjoyable for both of you.