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Is this Domestic Abuse?

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TooMuchJD · 04/08/2012 11:19

ad anotherrowwith DH over money initially, moved onto DS1 (his stepson) escalated into him shouting abusive comments in front of the children (DS2 & DD). He was still angry yesterday, went to his local from work, arrived home at 9.00pm, was upset his tea hadn't been cooked (??) Said he was goin to bed, went up, came down to hurl more accusations and verbal, went back up, came back down with more, tried to remove my wedding ring by force, when I wouldn't let him he flipped me and the sofa over, i banged my head but wasn't badly hurt thankfully. I took me and the two LO's to my parents (DS1 at his dads) and called the police on 101 to report it.
He had txt and called to tell me its my fault for pushing him into it by making him so angry. I shd be more grateful and appreciative that he works long hours to support the family (we each pay half the bills) and that I am always praising DS1 and critisising DH.
Idon't want him back here but he says he has no where to go so needs to stay until he can find somewhere.I don't think this is acceptable asthe violence has escalated from May (prev post on 31st May, don't kno how to link). Confused, angry and upset and don't kno what do for the best!!! Help please..

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Valpollicella · 04/08/2012 22:50

Sorry, missed your post about where he will arrange temporary accomodation. Good x

TooMuchJD · 05/08/2012 21:36

Thanks CommunistMoon for putting the link on, i can never get them to wrk.
He has been to look at a couple of properties today and has to wait 2-3 weeks before he can move into one of them. He is spending most of the time out of the house, just comin home to sleep. His parents not happy with what has happened and he's not willing to go back there temp, none of his mates have space for him either. Luckily my parents just live across the road so me & the kids spend time over there if we happen to be in the house at the same time. They haven't really noticied any difference as DH never really did much with us on a day to day basis anyway which is really sad. DS1 has come home today. Told him that we are separating, he was a little subdued but doesn't seem that bothered about it. Prob a bit relieved. Financially we are in the shit for this month as I can't adjust any of the tax credits etc. until he actually moves out but I have good relationship with my bank so I'm sure we'll manage in the short term.
Feel really bad, I know that I shouldn't but I really wanted this to work. The whole situation is just so sad, have worked really hard at trying to make this relationship work but still failed. Gutted.

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