How do you find time for sex when your children hit their teens?

[libbyssister]

DH and I have 3 DSs aged 6, 3 & 1 and we find it difficult enough to find the time to have sex. We used to be real morning sex people and that's gone out the window. And it's not like we fall into each other's arms as soon as the last one's asleep. So we're stuck having late night sex.

The other night we lay there wondering how the hell we're going to find the time when the boys are older and not getting to sleep until much later.

How do other people manage it? Wait until they're all out? And when does that happen?! Do you take time off work to get together??!!

When they are teens they will be out with their mates all the time.. dont worry ... and if they arent, they are old enough to be kicked out the door for a few hours on their own... for the meantime, get a lock on the inside of your bedroom door for in a morning!

when they're teens, if you have a snog and a cuddle, they'll be so revolted at the thought of old people having physical desires, that they'll probably run out of the house.

The ideal solution is for you both to work part-time from home.

Failing that... make your oldest do a paper round or catch an early bus to school so he has to be up horribly early in the morning so he'll need to be asleep the same time as the younger ones.

(I mean when he's a teen, obv, not trying to kick your 6-year old out to work yet )

LOL, Piglet

Lol. you'll get morning sex opportunities again, don't worry. Most teens like to lie in, and when they do get up they don't (generally) have the same need for your company that little ones do.

Be completely honest, I'm not particularly a morning sex(er?) but DH loves it. I pretty much say in a sarcastic voice "don't come barging in tomorrow morning mummy and daddy want to have sex". They normally laugh and look repulsed, but do stay away.

At night its easy, they're asleep, out, on the phone/facebook, watching tv or on the xbox/wii/playstation or whatever and basically couldn't give a shit if you were dying a slow yet loud death as long as there is food in the fridge, internet an electricity.

Watching with interest because with a 14 year old and a 10 month old, there never seems to be an opportunity that doesn't get interrupted by one or other!

You do know tat once they become teenagers they won't want to ever be in the same room as you, don't you?
All this dependant adulation wears off once the hormones arrive.

Teenagers = late mornings.

I'd be looking forward to that time.

Er thats easy, Ive two boys 24 and 18, I used to go to bed BEFORE them

With one early riser and one late nighter I can honestly say the only answer is Seldom and Very Quietly.

I have a solution...get divorced and have sex with your new partner when the kids are at their dad's.

Bit extreme, I admit! It's not how I planned for life to work out but I am a zillion times happier now than I was when married.

mornings

afternoons

evenings

your problem is ?

Dd is 14 and gets up at 7 every morning, she doesn't lie in ever- we pack her off to her room by 8pm, lights out by 9pm.

DH and I go to bed at 9, have sex, DH needs to be asleep by 10 to get up at 6 so we have a very small window.

Dd also goes out to a class for 2 hours on a Saturday so we get one in then.

It's a problem we haven't found a solution to yet. Ours seem to have a tag team thing going on so there's always one at home and awake at any one time. Tiny thin walled house and DD's bedroom opening straight off ours doesn't help.

We're considering buying a van