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dp keeps lying to me - just found out he's done it again and im furious...

28 replies

juicychops · 18/02/2012 22:08

long story short - dp and i live seperately (i live with ds and he lives with his parents but stays at mine some nights during the week when he's not seeing his kids)
He's got a lot of problems with money and lots of debt that he doesn't tell me about. He's always moody lately and i think he's depressed - he has lots of probs with work, his parents, his ex wife regarding the kids etc.

lies in the past he's told: said he's posted a birthday card i gave him to post but i found it in his bag 2 weeks later.
gets into debt with my blockbuster card when he's told me he's taken them back. Same with library books
little things like 'i didn't turn the thermostat up', 'i didn't put your glasses there' etc but its obvious he has.

all just little things but they really piss me off.

anyway, a month ago i gave dp a birthday card for one of his kids and an xmas card for the eldest as he was away for xmas so i ended up giving it to him late. both were in envelopes and sealed. both had a £10 note in. I asked him a few days later 'did you give xxx and xxx their cards?' and he said 'yes, a few days ago'.
This evening i found in dp's bag a red envelope ripped open and his eldest son's xmas card completely taken out of the envelope and shoved in his bag a bit screwed up. No money in it. Im assuming his son never got his card or the money. have no idea if the other son got his card and money either. Or any of the other cards i have given them over the last couple of years.

Its only a small thing but he's lied to my face and stolen from me and his kid/s. Im so angry. He's at his parents now until tomorrow night luckily as i don't want to even look at him now. Don't know how to do this. ive text his eldest and basically asked if he ever received his card. ive had no reply yet but i dont know him very well so prob wont get a response any time soon.

What shall i do? what would you do?

OP posts:
ChippingInNeedsCoffee · 20/02/2012 17:48

Come on, it's time he was your Ex - he's been messing you around for a long time now. Stop tolerating it.

izzyizin · 20/02/2012 18:05

It's been almost 48 hours since you rediscovered that this man doesn't give a toss for you, or anyone else for that matter.

As you've been told in no uncertain terms what to do and what others would do if they were confronted with the same issues, it's only fair that you now reveal what you've done about them.

Flanelle · 21/02/2012 11:03

Why is it, izzyizin? That's an astonishingly pushy message. OP doesn't have to do anything she doesn't want to - including leave this pillock just because MN thinks she ought to - and your idea of FAIR seems to be as generally screwed as OP's DH's.

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