dh is so badtempered - i know we have a stressful family life but this is so hard. how do i love with this bad temper?

[shedsleeper]

he seems to battle with alcohol - binges, every what 6 weeks, last time, i went to cab who were quite unheflpul about having him rehoused, seemed to think he was entitled to live with us and drink less.

it seems i have to force the issue by saying he is aggressive and harmful to the children in order to get him into a hostel. unless this particular cab person was inexperienced.

but but if he remains sober - how do i live with this bad temper.

Why does he have to go to a hostel??? Do you want to split? If so then you need to work on the basis that you will each manage your own housing, relying on the council should not be first option.

Why would you want to live with his bad temper at all?

You have options. You can officially separate or start a divorce, and ask him to leave. If he won't go, you can either leave yourself or sit tight & work on getting him out legally.

I wouldn't settle for living with his bad-temper and drinking, personally. You could talk to Al-Anon for support regarding living with him.

You don't live with it. He either stops or he moves out.

he is not drinking now. but he is bad tempered. and has stormed out and i am worried he will come back drunk. or even if he doeesnt come back drunk, even if he never drinks again. he is bad tempered

so he has to look for a room to move to?

how do i get him out legally?

Why would someone else look for him?

right he is back, breathe.

but this bad temper
grim

i thought the council would rehouse him in the breakdown of our relationship. perhaps i am naive

Councils don't house people unless there is a reason why they can't house themselves.

he woiuld not be a priority for them. Single men have a tough time finding anything for themselves. Why do you feel responsible for him? Have you every asked him to leave?

He wouldn't be high priority to rehouse as a single man presumably in reasonable health.

He could find himself a shared house or bedsit quite cheaply.

Have a look at the Shelter website for advice on housing. Relate can help with financial/legal stuff around relationship breakdowns (as well as their counselling services).

Are you still together as a couple or just sharing the same house?

Does the bad temper mean he is violent to you? Abusive to you or the children?

To get him out legally, you'd be looking for an occupation order, I'd have thought.

Try here