have name-changed for this as DH knows my chat name.
We haven't had sex for months, although when I ask about this he says he'd like to, but will say, "last night you went to bed earlier.. we were tired...".
I lost a lot of confidence because he has been very judgemental about my size/weight in the past (I'm an in-proportion size 16, am getting fitter) and has never had a very high sex drive, and doesn't ejaculate easily. It has got to the stage where I was finding his approach insincere, when he does initiate sex, it always seems a bit cheesy and forced - he'll say in a "casanova" kind of voice with his face right next to mine "would you like to make love tonight?"
I just feel awkward now, as if him initiating sex is his response to feeling obliged; and because I've lost confidence, I don't want to initiate sex myself.
Just writing this down makes me realise this is a vicious circle, and I just need to kick start the process. But I'm a bit stumped for ideas - just looking at the Rigby and Peller/Figleaves website makes me feel demoralised, and again, that I'd be doing something that risks feeling obvious and silly.
So - how to start small - but genuinely sexy...?