Why does he do that?

[Ihatehim]

DH clearly hates me, he hurts me, pulls my hair, pins my arms, belittles me, but only occasionally, once every two years or so, the rest of the time he's a lovely man - I don't know what to do.

I don't know what to do.

I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.

And read the book by Lundy Bancroft with the same title as this thread. It will help.

OP, how are things today?